I need help (in Off-topic)


Bok [brimstone killers] December 16 2006 8:45 PM EST

I have a ring for my girlfriend and i don't know if to give it to her as a
promise ring or an engagement ring. Please somebody hows gone through help me.

Shooto December 16 2006 8:46 PM EST

How long have you been together and are you ready to take it to the next step?

AdminQBnovice [Cult of the Valaraukar] December 16 2006 8:57 PM EST

at least you've stopped to consider it, that's more than most folks do...

if you've never spoken to her about marriage, you might just want to give it as a gift...

Zoglog[T] [big bucks] December 16 2006 9:04 PM EST

My first opinion of this would be that if you aren't sure of which to give it to her as then you aren't ready for engagement.
Don't rush things until you know for certain, the time to do that is when you can make the decision yourself and not need our opinions.
I've been with my girlfriend for 9 months now and I love her to bits and we always talk about the future, I was going to spring the question a while back but wanted a nice ring to present to her but couldn't afford it so I decided to wait, I'm actually now becoming less sure about these things through events over the past couple of months, I would have been even more torn if I had already become engaged to her.
I feel that you can never give something like this too much time or thought, you'll always find out more about the person, some good things, some bad and balances can shift.
I suggest you take some time to yourself in an empty space away from busy life and think everything through, weigh up all of her perks and faults and how they affect you now as well as how you think those feelings will traject into the future, it's a big decision and we wouldn't want you becoming one of those divorce figures, feelings and emotions should stay intact :)

Xenko December 16 2006 9:04 PM EST

I hate the whole idea of a promise ring, so I wouldn't even consider giving one. Promising that sometime in the future you are going to make another promise to marry her...what a load of baloney!

Hopefully you two have been together a while before you even consider this. In my opinion, at least a year and a half or two years in a serious relationship. Now, if you are willing to commit yourself to her for the rest of your life then go for the engagement. Make sure you are absolutely positive that you want to do it though. Otherwise, I'd suggest you hurry out and buy a different gift that involves less commitment.

Now, I don't mean any offense here, but in my honest opinion, if you are seriously asking other people on a computer game about whether you should take the next step in your relationship, you are not ready at all, so all my previous questions don't even really apply to you.

(As an aside: If someone has a better word to put than baloney that is still PG, please let me now, because baloney just doesn't have the same effect.)

Zoglog[T] [big bucks] December 16 2006 9:08 PM EST

Kultur, how about the great English slang word 'codswallop'?
A very PG term and it always seems to do a reasonable job ;)

Slashundhack [We Forge Our Own Stuff] December 17 2006 3:28 AM EST

How about Crud , bull ,creative dooky ,horse pucks ,Blather, hogs wollup And last but not least a politicians public promises !
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