I blame CarnageBlender (in Off-topic)

Ilovehellokitty December 23 2005 2:26 PM EST

...for I , who got dumped on X-mas.
My boyfriend just called me up on Xmas (this morning)) and let me know he is getting tired of NOT seeing me anymore after few months. I have tried to make up, I have tried to say i 'd quit play games altogether, But nothing worked. What should I do? What actually happened? Up till 2 days ago, he even agreed to give me $500 to spend on CarnageBlender and the other mmorpg i play for xmas present. But everything changed now. What should I do to get him back? He knows I play a lot of games before this. But the routine of every 3 hours is the only thing that is different about carnageblender than the other game which i can play for 6 hours straight and then log of for the whole day. I miss him so much already and it's only been 4 hours....what should I do >.<

QBRanger December 23 2005 2:28 PM EST

Very simple, sell out, and spend time with your BF.

SNK3R December 23 2005 2:30 PM EST

I don't really have any advice since I don't like to meddle with personal affairs. But, I'm still confused how this morning is Christmas.

I wish you the best of luck to what you decide.

Ilovehellokitty December 23 2005 2:31 PM EST

Once again, another even-you-ignored-me-I-still-can-post-to-whatever-you-say-in-forum post from Mr.Ranger.

Ilovehellokitty December 23 2005 2:32 PM EST

it's X-mas weekend to be correct.

Quark December 23 2005 2:33 PM EST

No, kitty. Ranger has a serious point to make. If your BF is important enough that you want him in your life, you do what it takes. If that means selling every game you've got, and your relationship is worth it, then that's what you do.

Just make sure it is reciprocated, and that CB is not just an excuse to break up with you. I'm surprised he'd first offer to fund your MMORPG habit and then break up with you over it.

Mem December 23 2005 2:34 PM EST

So Kitty lives two days in the future, eh? Well no wonder...

Ilovehellokitty December 23 2005 2:38 PM EST

I have tried to say i 'd quit all the games. His respond was: "I got to go somewhere right now. Sorry"

Quark December 23 2005 2:41 PM EST

It sounds like there's a different reason - first make sure you know why he's dumping you.

maulaxe December 23 2005 2:41 PM EST

It must the theory of relativity. She spent so much BA in such a short period of time, that the rest of the world slowed down.

but seriously, I do agree with Ranger. and 'G's explanation. If gaming takes priority over relationships, then stuff like this can happen.
which is also probably why I don't have a GF... hey, you're available, right?
; )

CoolWater [Superheros] December 23 2005 2:41 PM EST

That's why you are not suppose to have a BF/GF when paying CB. It's either you are married or single. If you are married, your husband/wife is stuck with you no matter how crazy you are about CB.

Your options are:
Get him to play CB, get him addicted.
As ranger said, sell out and quit.
Get another boyfriend.
Even better, get a boyfriend from CB.
Hold a contest "Whoever in CB becomes your BF, gets your TOA".
Cry all day.
Change your user pic to "I'm sad today".

QBRanger December 23 2005 2:43 PM EST


I fail to understand the venom in your post against me. You asked a very simple question of which I gave you an honest answer. You did not say "everyone but Ranger can answer". You asked a RL question and I attempted to give an honest answer.

An apology is expected.

Sukotto [lookingglas] December 23 2005 2:44 PM EST

Schedule time for him. Play games in whatever time is left over.

Show him you appreciate him and like spending time with him. Do stuff together that you both enjoy and that actually requires both of you to be physically together. Change your location so you don't get sucked back into the games out of habit.

Ilovehellokitty December 23 2005 2:47 PM EST

maulaxe : I don't get why now though, he supports me with everything i do before. I dont play game as much as I used to anyway. So that should be an improvement rather a lame excuse he used on me. Maybe chappy is right...

Quark December 23 2005 2:47 PM EST

Don't forget that us old fogies speak from a different experience too. Heart breaks are very poignant when you're in college or high school, but they pass.

It might actually be a reasonable test of how forthcoming he was on why he broke up - if he couldn't be bothered to tell you why or take you back if you quit, then that's a warning sign.

QBRanger December 23 2005 2:50 PM EST


Saying you will quit is a lot different then actually quitting. IMO, you need to quit now and show your BF you're serious about it. Then and only then will he know your serious about quitting gaming.

Ilovehellokitty December 23 2005 2:57 PM EST

If I play games like I do now. It's HIS FAULT for getting me started. He and my roommate met on Anarchy Online. And story goes....we started to date. He was a game addict too. I never knew what's RPG is until he comes along. I was the one who said: I am tired of watching you play I am going to play too.

chappy [Soup Ream] December 23 2005 2:59 PM EST

/me sees through the blah blah blah that Kitty's X spits out his mouth

It's an excuse ... he's not happy and he found an excuse to break it off with you Kitty ... I've expressed my support for you in chat and now in this forum post, but the last thing you should do in my opinion is crawl back to him saying you'll change .. and there really is no reason to up and quit and then say look Honey I stopped playing CB .. His response will surely be 'Little bit late don't you think .. ' .. You're young, in college, and attractive .. Enjoy the single life ... it's not that lonely .. especially with this rockin CB community .. I'm not saying that CB is more important that a relationship, but it's obvious that this one wasn't the one that was meant to last forever .. Wait on somebody that appreciates you :) That will bring you true happiness :P

I love you kitty so, so much :)

AdminQBGentlemanLoser [{END}] December 23 2005 3:01 PM EST

Quit the other game. CB actually makes it easier to see loved ones than other games, purely for the BA refresh time.

Play for 15 minutes, spend your BA then log off and spend time with your partner. Come back three hours later, when thy're doing somehing that doesn't involve you being with them.

How have you managed your time to spend so much BA here and play other games? I play during the day at work, time I wouldn't be spending with Claire anyway. But you have lectures/lessons. Do you fit your BA expenditure in between these? Does your BF go to the same college as you? Could you spend time between lectures with him instead? Is that why he's frustrated with not seeing you?

If he comes to your place, do you sit down and play a game for 6 hours, or only spend that sort of time when you know he won't be around?

You're selling your character and stuff off, are you not selling out anyway?

CoolWater [Superheros] December 23 2005 3:04 PM EST

Kitty, sell everything, you should get at least $200. Buy him something that he will appreciate or spend the money on a romantic dinner or something like that. It's kind of an apology.

He broke up with you could be for many reasons that's been building up from the past into one huge pile of reasons. The last reason combined with bad mood just tipped the pile over.

Ilovehellokitty December 23 2005 3:06 PM EST

GentlemanLoser: Selling stuff to manage NCB going for the clan. Didn't ever think about quiting (someone else did though). I play cb during lecture too sometime if i can sit all the way in the back of the class.

XxFaezerxX December 23 2005 3:18 PM EST

I say quit playing games or just play less...I almost have the dame problem with my gf but i manage to keep things under control lol.

Revs December 23 2005 3:20 PM EST

My suggestion: simply talk to him about it. I wouldn't jump to conclusions either way until you know what his motives are, and what's going on in his thinking. Communication and time are both powerful allies, so I suggest you use them both.

AdminShade December 23 2005 3:21 PM EST

Call him up and take some time off from CB, simple.

I'd do the same for a cute girl that would be my love.

QBOddBird December 23 2005 3:22 PM EST

awww, oh no! Tell him you will quit the game if he'll take you back. If he says no, fine, his choice - there are other fish in the sea. Probably a nice marlin for you to take home. Maybe a Bass...but anyways, if you really miss him, quit CB for him - but come back! ^_^

Seriously, go get your boy back. But come back to us, we'll miss ya kitty!

Ilovehellokitty December 23 2005 3:23 PM EST

Revelator: "I am not available at the moment, please leave me a message. Beep"
I guess he is not picking up his phone.
I 'd come over to his house whenever i can get a ride. And If, a big IF, I see him play game, I will slam his head straight into his big screen LCD and wrap the wound up myself later.

Blackheart December 23 2005 3:24 PM EST

you are better off without him

AdminQBGentlemanLoser [{END}] December 23 2005 3:29 PM EST

"I play cb during lecture too sometime if i can sit all the way in the back of the class."

Gahh... I feel old now. Back in my day there were no computers in classes...

If he's still playing as much, then it's just an excuss. Tell him to act like a man and tell you honestly why he wants the relationship to end.

Claire and I have had problems with not spending enough time together, but it's nothing we couldn't manage by sitting down and talking things through.

If he wants the relationship to continue, he'll talk to you about the problems he has. If not, he won't. And no relationship can work without communication.

Bootsanator December 23 2005 4:05 PM EST

my gf is the reason i missed so many BA and my character only got to like, 510 or 520 k after its NUB. well, that and being a chemistry major. i burn my BA between (and sometimes during) classes too, kitty :P what're you going to school for? hehe

it is weird, though, that he would offer to pay for your rpg's and then say he's breaking up with you b/c of them...i'd look into that.
also, how long have you been going out with him? how much do you love him? does he still return it, or did something change? time for a serious evaluation, i'm sure.

Adminedyit [Superheros] December 23 2005 5:36 PM EST

my gf hates this game but i tell her it could be worse i could be drinking

{CB1ate}aupStar December 23 2005 5:59 PM EST

Get your facts straight..It might be because of CB or it might not be..To find out the truth you need to talk to him face to face or he'll just keep avoiding you. For all you know it could be that he found someone else (no offence but stuff like this happens). Enough of this silly speculation. Don't be a coward, be a real man! ^_^ Otherwise, you'll never really know for sure.

smallpau1 - Go Blues [Lower My Fees] December 23 2005 6:21 PM EST

do exactly what i did, sit back and forge your own items up and others items here and there. I spend more time with my GF now, and just get on CB when i can. So i dont have to worry about fighting and getting CP's. Now i can sleep whenever i want and get out of the house without feeling bad for my clan. And plus it helps me mostly, cuz i can forge my own stuff. But it did wonders with my relationship, cuz now when I'm with her i dont *need* to get onto CB for just that 5, 10, or 25 minutes anymore. But I'd say keep your NUB char, and forge and forge your own items up and put em into rentals. What i do, is put all my items into rentals except one rare, and i just forge on the one rare.

Mikel December 23 2005 6:23 PM EST

First, spend all of your BA.
Call him once, leave a message telling him to call you back. Spend more BA.
Wait for him to contact you, and of course burn BA while waiting.
Whatever you do, don't drink, it'll only make you more desperate.
Once, you get a firm time/date, then before hand spend all BA, then get with him and find out the answer to the problem. I happen to agree with most of the previous posts. He might have said that he'd spend that money on your games to get your attention. Basically, it sounds to me like he's attention starved.

Special J December 23 2005 6:28 PM EST

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YOU December 23 2005 6:31 PM EST

"Basically, it sounds to me like he's attention starved."
That's exactly what I told you last month. But you didn't listen. But I dont think that boy is not going play the ball too hard. Just wait till tomorrow mornin'. And remember, on Saturday. NOONE is Allowed to ring the bell before Noon. I donot care if it's holiday.

AdminG Beee December 23 2005 6:38 PM EST

I have a solution.

You should marry Ranger. You guys talk like you're married to each other anyway :)

Kefeck [Demonic Serenity] December 23 2005 7:16 PM EST

That is pretty funny G bee. Kitty I do have a question for you why have your scores been going down you only have 9000 cp this week.

Stephen Young December 23 2005 7:16 PM EST

And boom goes the dynamite. :)

Timberwolf December 23 2005 7:35 PM EST

Way too much to read, so if it has been said already, my apologies.
It sounds to me like your BF has found someone else that isn't always playing a game and has moved on. I believe his mind is already made up, and there is probably not much you can say or do to change that.

Your 2 options are:
1. Wait around for weeks on end pining over lost love until months from now you realize he has moved on and you are still waiting for him to return, or

2. Move on, judging by your picture you are still fairly young. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Find someone that likes/loves you for you, game playing and all and continue on with your life.

Xiaz on Hiatus December 23 2005 7:37 PM EST

change, inevitable, yet some try to resist. You can't blame CB for your downfall, blame yourself, you're balancing time with your boyfriend with time playing game(s)? heh, games you can turn on and off, friendship can't be put on hold or pause, it's a two sided thing, just because it seems okay from you POV, maybe he just got sick off not seeing you for so long. Even I'd be a little upset if games had a higher priority than me. The irony is you posting on CB to ask for advice, when it is Cb that you blame for all this happening, sigh. Good Luck and Merry Christmas.

MrC [DodgingTheEvilForgeFees] December 23 2005 7:55 PM EST

Perhaps it's the christmas party hangover I'm recovering from at the moment that's doing it, but something about this thread keeps bugging me so I've got to post my opinion on this one.

1: Get your priorities straight. You love him? Give up CB. Give up games. Just make up your mind which is more important, these games or your relationship. I gaurantee you that you'll have to sacrifice many more important things than a few games in order to live the way you want over the years. This is a good place to start, choose which is best for you, and stick to it.
2: Something isn't right about how you say he's been acting, but heck, if someone wrote down the way I act 90% of the time you'd lock me in a mental institution. Chances are he's just covering something up, likely it's something unimportant but just easier to cover up than to be up front about.
3: "I blame Carnage Blender". You logic needs a lot of improvement.

Wonderpuff December 23 2005 8:22 PM EST

Maybe you and say a... room mate could split time on CB^H^H him to ensure maximum face time.

Ilovehellokitty December 23 2005 8:59 PM EST

kefeck: I have Final past 2 weeks

Emin3nt December 23 2005 11:48 PM EST

you know it should have never gotten to this in the first place. to be frank, your situation is pretty pathetic.

Synco December 23 2005 11:50 PM EST

I agree with Frank.

Emin3nt December 23 2005 11:51 PM EST

truth be told i assumed his identity, my name is actually bobby.

XxFaezerxX December 23 2005 11:54 PM EST

His name name was Smith. I'm sure.
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