Real Life Venting... (in Off-topic)


Demigod June 7 2010 12:01 AM EDT

In 2002, I was in the middle of college. I quit my job that summer and went on a solo backpacking trip of Europe until the next semester began. When I returned, I threw a party and met my future fiance. A few months later, my roommate met his future fiance as well. Both of us waited six years to pop the question, though our ladies asked us repeatedly to hurry up.

Last July was the intended wedding date, but it got bumped indefinitely after a case of cold feet on her part. My friend chose Fall 2011.

Both of these relationships just ended. My fiance's lost desire to get married form one split, and my friend fell out of love and subsequently cheated with another friend's wife.

When I say these just ended, I mean they just ended. I said my final goodbye to her today (in an email, since she's not answering her phone), and my friend is in the process of moving out of their house and possibly leaving Atlanta entirely.

Ending a long relationship sucks. To make matters worse, she got the dog. I loved that dog...

Cube June 7 2010 12:17 AM EDT

That must be tough, I hope you can work through it. It's hard to lose someone after that long.

I can't really offer any advice; I can't even imagine how that must feel.

AdminQBnovice [Cult of the Valaraukar] June 7 2010 1:37 AM EDT

the dog? weak... sorry to hear it man

Gunny Pew Pew [Red Permanent Assurance] June 7 2010 1:38 AM EDT

+2 demigod for the dog

AdminQBnovice [Cult of the Valaraukar] June 7 2010 1:43 AM EDT

bad country in the key of bleh minor

~/I was lost in a sea of indecision
then I came to upon a golden shore
I looked but when I went to find you
you'd already left out the back door

damn you, you cold hearted woman
you took my love and just plain walked away
I wouldn't mind you leaving
cept you took the reason I'm grievin
bring back my damn dog and get the hell away/~

QBRanger June 7 2010 8:46 AM EDT

Both of us waited six years to pop the question, though our ladies asked us repeatedly to hurry up.
Ya think that had anything to do with it?

I popped the question to my wife after just 6 months. I knew from the first date she was the one.

Perhaps your ex was never really "the one" but "the one right now".

I know it hurts but there are plenty of women out there. Just get back into the dating pool.

The cruelest thing is that she got the dog. Dogs are meant for men. Tell here you will get her a cat if she gives you your dog back :)

Demigod June 7 2010 10:26 AM EDT

Waiting that long certainly gave her time to slip away, but I was determined to wait until she finished her master's degree and I had put away enough money to not worry about finances. And she was "the one" in such sense that there is a "one." The unavoidable truth is that romantic love gives way to comfortable routine after being together for years. I still had that romantic love for her, but it seems things changed for her in the past year.

But that's life. I'm actually dealing with it quite well, considering that my friend is losing his mind right now. I'm just shocked at how similar our paths have been. It may hit me more when I have to go through and remove all of her pics from my desktop. I have a program running that cycles wallpapers every 15 minutes, and half of those are from our vacations to Mexico, Costa Rica, and stateside trips.

Bye bye, puppy Sal.

Admindudemus [jabberwocky] June 7 2010 10:42 AM EDT

bummer demi! i am glad though that it is dog instead of kid or kids though. ; (

AdminQBnovice [Cult of the Valaraukar] June 7 2010 10:58 AM EDT

-2 Ranger "meant for men" seriously? What is this 1974?

Zenai June 7 2010 11:53 PM EDT

Sorry to hear this man. If you ever need to talk you know I'll always be around bro.
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