Love crisis (in Off-topic)

Quyen May 8 2012 10:38 AM EDT

how do I start.. so, I like this girl, but she only acknowledges me as a classmate. Anyhow, If I'm close to her, I feel a dense aura, pretty much a feeling that she hates me a lot, though I'm not sure about that.
I thought of it, And got to 2 choices:
Either I keep contact with her, even though she might hate me. pretty much ends with me being happy, and her being less happy.

Or I keep my distance, in which she is happy, but I can have my heart broken multiple times :|

Any thoughts on which choice is better? I myself prefer to have the other party profit, so it makes this choice way harder than it should be.

QBRanger May 8 2012 10:44 AM EDT

Man up and ask her out.

Just be cool about it and ask if sometime she would like to catch a movie. If she says yes, then proceed with picking a night to get together.

If she says no, time to move on. And you will get rid of the uncertainty of not knowing if she truly likes you.

Unappreciated Misnomer May 8 2012 10:44 AM EDT

Life is for living and moving forward despite the outcomes of the events. I say don't waste time and go for it, in ten years if your not with her at least you have no regrets. And in that time if you're together then good on you.

AdminQBGentlemanLoser [{END}] May 8 2012 10:46 AM EDT

Seconding Ranger.

Or you can spend the rest of your life wondering 'what if'. Which isn't really an appealing prospect.

Quyen May 8 2012 11:32 AM EDT

I pretty much asked already if she liked me around the start of the year, And she replied that she doesn't know me as friend yet.. I got a bit closer IMO, but ain't sure if something really changed at all.

Unappreciated Misnomer May 8 2012 11:50 AM EDT

Then be social with her, get into her circle of friends

Quyen May 8 2012 11:55 AM EDT

and you think I didn't thought of that? :p well, going to try again soon.. seeing if there's a possibility for me. if not, I give up :/

Unappreciated Misnomer May 8 2012 12:12 PM EDT

Well I m not up to par for what kids to for social outings, but coffee is a good start, and if she hasn't run a away take her out to do something where you can be silly like the driving range, mini putt, movies and dinner are too much, and maybe you just have to tell her that you want to take her out to get to know her better by suggesting an activity...

Xenogard [Chaotic Serenity] May 8 2012 6:18 PM EDT

/me makes a comment on Q's age

He's a youngin' still. Love ya Q!

Yeah I'll basically repeat what's already been said, be forward with her, be flirtatious, ask her out, get to know her group of friends, stuff like that.

Also confidence is key, and I can bet most here will agree with me when I say that. Be confident in yourself, both what you do and what you say, don't dwell on things too long and don't obsess about things if they don't go your way.

Last but not least, there are plenty of other fish in the sea, never get caught up on one who isn't also caught up on you, I can assure you no good will come of it other then the dreaded friend zone. If you really like this girl, that's not the zone you want to be in.

Live, Love, Learn.

Admiralkiller [Cult of the Valaraukar] May 8 2012 9:24 PM EDT

Wayne gretzky said it best." you will miss some of the shots you take but you will miss100% of the shoots you don't take"

A Lesser AR of 15 [Red Permanent Assurance] May 8 2012 9:41 PM EDT

"Hey, did you know The Avengers has two endings? <insert filler> Didn't ask anyone else to go yet, but uhh, wanna see that with me and who ever else? Come on it'll be fun."
pro-tip: Don't show teeth when serving the beef. ;)

QBBast [Hidden Agenda] May 8 2012 9:55 PM EDT

Ask her about her dense aura. The interaction should be very telling.

Fishead May 8 2012 11:02 PM EDT

Go out with friends the first time.

And don't talk too much about this cool text based game that you play online...

Demigod May 8 2012 11:18 PM EDT

Don't show teeth when serving the beef.

I can't express just how much I love this quote.

IPoop May 9 2012 12:08 AM EDT

shes obviously not that interested right now so dont worry about it. Chat to her friends, then she will get jealous when your paying them attention and not her anymore
(and if she doesnt get jealous and start making an effort, well then you know how she feels with out asking her and as a bonus youve now gained some more female friends and increased your casual social circle)

AdminQBGentlemanLoser [{END}] May 9 2012 2:06 AM EDT

Ask her about her dense aura. The interaction should be very telling.

Win! But make sure you're able to back that statement up. ;)

AdminQBGentlemanLoser [{END}] May 9 2012 2:11 AM EDT

Before anyone gets the wrong idea, I once successfully used the colour of my aura as an in. ;)

I can't be the only one... :P

Doesn't matter I can't actually see my own aura, and I'm not too convinced we actually have them, but discussing it with someone who did sure worked!

Quyen May 9 2012 3:24 AM EDT

Thanks for all the help, I will try most of the things told except for the make her jealous. I rather get hurt myself than see her jealous.

T-Beck May 9 2012 3:51 AM EDT

And don't talk too much about this cool text based game that you play online... Don't listen to Fishead. Go into great detail about the ins and outs of Carnage Blender. Balancing issues, ideal strats, etc. You'll be beating girls off with a stick. Trust me ;)

T-Beck May 9 2012 3:52 AM EDT

Also, I clearly don't know how to post stuff in a blue box like that. This was the best I could find under the forum section in Help! :P

Quyen May 9 2012 8:55 AM EDT

T beck, use >, a space and then the text someone said.
also, I pretty much give up, as I've seen exactly what I lack.

AdminQBGentlemanLoser [{END}] May 9 2012 9:37 AM EDT

A Mullet? ;)

But if I could give one good bit of advice (and I'm no ladies man in the slightest!) it would be to not become someone you're not, just to get that special lady.

It leads to pain down the road.

Stay who your are, and find somoene who likes you for that. And if you realise you've not got something she wants, moving on is the right thing.

Now, if you figure you can change, and want to change, that's a different matter. ;)

Quyen May 9 2012 9:39 AM EDT

keep being myself..? Hate everyone! but It's now just waiting till my depression of this is over :p

AdminQBGentlemanLoser [{END}] May 9 2012 9:44 AM EDT

Let's just kill everyone and let your gods sort it out? ;)

Yeah, unrequited love sucks. Been there, done that, got the T-Shirt. If you get the chance, listen to 'dry your eyes' by the Streets. Brilliant bit of break up bromance.

Quyen May 9 2012 11:09 AM EDT

the song brought tears to my eyes.. suddenly I want a dog.. :/
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